tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7800160462094633117.post7440028199465924271..comments2024-02-24T02:17:22.800-08:00Comments on Focus: Happy Mother's DayMunirGhiasuddinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05232362559666320301noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7800160462094633117.post-88142292311860016902014-07-30T11:16:32.616-07:002014-07-30T11:16:32.616-07:00What a nice tribute to your friend. It sounds to m...What a nice tribute to your friend. It sounds to me like you were a wonderful friend to her. You kept the door open for her to take walks with you and you asked her questions without being overbearing. You gave her an opening, but only she could decide to go through the door.<br /><br />She knew you cared about her and it sounds like it meant a lot to her. :)<br />~Jess DMShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04202502753961748992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7800160462094633117.post-75150045240877978972014-06-13T04:32:36.753-07:002014-06-13T04:32:36.753-07:00I agree with the other commentators. You did the b...I agree with the other commentators. You did the best you could.<br /><br />I have a friend, who also happens to come from India, who I call "Mummy" although she is only a year older to me, because she is always telling me to eat more and take care of myself! You two would get along!Ghadeerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04811397676327530873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7800160462094633117.post-49501643149031217752014-05-28T06:37:49.809-07:002014-05-28T06:37:49.809-07:00Just wanted to stop by and say hi and that I hope ...Just wanted to stop by and say hi and that I hope all is well!! Optimistic Existentialisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11507986337866049924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7800160462094633117.post-83161649730875595552014-05-24T21:57:13.517-07:002014-05-24T21:57:13.517-07:00I think you did the right thing. She could tell yo...I think you did the right thing. She could tell you cared, but she wasn't motivated on the inside.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09763547174099448920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7800160462094633117.post-54643039276164612122014-05-20T18:27:42.987-07:002014-05-20T18:27:42.987-07:00I believe that many people just get tired of livin...I believe that many people just get tired of living; and in those cases, there is nothing anyone can do.<br /><br />From what you've told us here, you did all that you could do. I'm sure this woman knew how much you cared.Anitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08180243708565855383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7800160462094633117.post-53681198164783452352014-05-19T15:31:36.646-07:002014-05-19T15:31:36.646-07:00I have learned you can only help those that want t...I have learned you can only help those that want to be helped. If they do not want to change nothing you can do will make them do the right thing. You did all you could my sweet friend.Life happenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04426557368853696930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7800160462094633117.post-84762152466215034042014-05-16T09:15:10.844-07:002014-05-16T09:15:10.844-07:00Dear Munir, I think that all of us wonder about th...Dear Munir, I think that all of us wonder about things we didn't do as well as things we did do that might have brought harm to another. But the truth is that you were a presence in your neighbor's life and for some reason--which you'll probably never know--she was unable to love herself enough to take care of herself. I suspect that your visiting was a balm that helped her live as long as she did. Peace.Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00612299013780771262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7800160462094633117.post-63383463755313093742014-05-15T14:45:22.386-07:002014-05-15T14:45:22.386-07:00Happy Mother's Day!Happy Mother's Day!Ruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15051904118383493849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7800160462094633117.post-35132762697221896012014-05-15T13:39:31.969-07:002014-05-15T13:39:31.969-07:00You did something wonderful for her: you cared. I&...You did something wonderful for her: you cared. I'm sure it meant more to her than she admitted. But we can never help more than somebody lets us. We can only offer it, but the person needs to decide themselves they want to change something. Putting pressure will never help, it will have the opposite effect. Change will only happen if the person wants it to. So you did everything you could :)Beatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14712395242968990000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7800160462094633117.post-56380751896094927682014-05-14T23:25:11.009-07:002014-05-14T23:25:11.009-07:00You did what you could, and you shouldn't guil...You did what you could, and you shouldn't guilt yourself over what-ifs.DWeihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01052727489537771147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7800160462094633117.post-56661309549541459402014-05-14T19:59:53.843-07:002014-05-14T19:59:53.843-07:00It's a God's gift to be a mother!It's a God's gift to be a mother!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7800160462094633117.post-21956640481639296632014-05-13T17:59:27.080-07:002014-05-13T17:59:27.080-07:00I wanted to thank you for dropping by my blog... y...I wanted to thank you for dropping by my blog... you are always so sweet and kind to me... I adore all your comments... :)<br /><br />Launna Launna https://www.blogger.com/profile/09447311902825477772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7800160462094633117.post-6602676045387795462014-05-13T17:43:53.988-07:002014-05-13T17:43:53.988-07:00Hi human, Munir,
My dear human friend, maybe this...Hi human, Munir,<br /><br />My dear human friend, maybe this is little consolation, but you did more for that neighbour than many would do. You know your heart is in the right place.<br /><br />I hope your North American Mother's Day was a peaceful one.<br /><br />Penny :)klahaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613505424843475639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7800160462094633117.post-15718062171133272692014-05-13T16:17:52.535-07:002014-05-13T16:17:52.535-07:00Dearest Munir,
Mother's Day is such a day for ...Dearest Munir,<br />Mother's Day is such a day for pondering... Not the commercial aspect of the day, but for the 365 days of the year; our thoughts and feelings.<br />As for your neighbor, she has been a perfect example of leading a horse to the water but the horse has to drink him or herself... For reasons not known to outsiders, she did not let anyone change her lifestyle, how sad in the end it may have been.<br />Hugs to you,<br />MarietteMariette VandenMunckhof-Vedderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16877699174880945452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7800160462094633117.post-52203717292662390892014-05-13T15:10:02.048-07:002014-05-13T15:10:02.048-07:00Awe, so sorry I'm late but Happy Belated Mothe...Awe, so sorry I'm late but Happy Belated Mother's Day to you. Hugs, xoSusie Swansonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06052734156809316397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7800160462094633117.post-69933391558493405552014-05-13T03:34:32.492-07:002014-05-13T03:34:32.492-07:00I will only believe that you did all you could do....I will only believe that you did all you could do. Your heart is good and your intentions are kind. You would have reached out to this person as far as she would allow. It is important to respect boundaries, even if we do not believe they are the best for the individual. It is their choice. Hope you had a relaxing and joyful Mother's Day.Granny Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18165058412950953296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7800160462094633117.post-85503753457328351002014-05-12T18:22:40.956-07:002014-05-12T18:22:40.956-07:00When my brother-in-law passed away due to drugs I ...When my brother-in-law passed away due to drugs I often wondered if we could have done more to save him. My husband said "Sometimes a person has to die to get better". We can't want something more than they do...you sound like you were a wonderful friend and neighbor and did the most that she allowed you to do. I hope you had a wonderful Mother's day.yayahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12047536332780197024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7800160462094633117.post-81051499571089833052014-05-12T10:01:16.285-07:002014-05-12T10:01:16.285-07:00Hi Munir - sadly we cannot help others ... only en...Hi Munir - sadly we cannot help others ... only encourage them - and she led her own life - difficult as it may be.<br /><br />I hope you had a lovely day and were treated well ... Happy Mother's Day ... cheers HilaryHilary Melton-Butcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17596532480645510678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7800160462094633117.post-39756160022867465732014-05-12T07:28:05.892-07:002014-05-12T07:28:05.892-07:00You did the best you could with what was in your p...You did the best you could with what was in your power.Shellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04930262815304757150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7800160462094633117.post-58210252922801016782014-05-12T05:18:06.233-07:002014-05-12T05:18:06.233-07:00She loved you for your concern, although she was n...She loved you for your concern, although she was not able to take the advice.Joanne Noragonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09834682329952369721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7800160462094633117.post-51736744977033189792014-05-12T03:48:06.794-07:002014-05-12T03:48:06.794-07:00You did the absolute best that you could! We can r...You did the absolute best that you could! We can really only do so much. Thank you for sharing this with us and it's good to see a post from you! :) I've missed your posts. Optimistic Existentialisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11507986337866049924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7800160462094633117.post-46678185141023692742014-05-12T02:59:34.240-07:002014-05-12T02:59:34.240-07:00Happy Mother's day to you too Munir♡
There is...Happy Mother's day to you too Munir♡<br /><br />There is much you can do for someone if they don't want to change. I think it is sweet that you tried... we all have our freedom of choice ... have a wonderful day :-)Launna https://www.blogger.com/profile/09447311902825477772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7800160462094633117.post-26561080273843258282014-05-11T23:53:04.125-07:002014-05-11T23:53:04.125-07:00Caring for others is not simply being a mommy, it ...Caring for others is not simply being a mommy, it is a posture toward existence. You cared, still care. You have my admiration.Geo.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16221314320558128986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7800160462094633117.post-71589455977374281972014-05-11T19:46:46.857-07:002014-05-11T19:46:46.857-07:00You did your best Munir. We can only go so far and...You did your best Munir. We can only go so far and then we have to give people their own space. I think calling you mommy was a term of endearment. She knew you cared and wanted to help her. But it was her choice in the end.<br />Bless you for being a good neighbor. Hugs!B. WHITTINGTONhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10362600188243508446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7800160462094633117.post-63542756668061509352014-05-11T18:47:32.261-07:002014-05-11T18:47:32.261-07:00I think you did all you could. But you did what y...I think you did all you could. But you did what you could at the time. We all look back and wish we could have done more, but we are not super-human, nor can we "make" someone do things, that has to come from inside, I think. Coaching helps, and that is what you did, the fact that she called you "Mommy," shows so much.loverofwordshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05763349886822924646noreply@blogger.com