Friday, August 19, 2011

Taking Charge

Before I forget :-  I would like to thank everyone who reads my blog postings. My postings make me feel that I am able to connect people somehow.
Two months ago I was worried about losing my memory and a lot of people suggested that it could be because I have been overwhelmed with a lot of things happening at the same time. Then for sometime I have been free of that fear. I would like to remain free of fear. I am trying to ward off thoughts that enter my mind but somehow I keep getting those thoughts again and again and I notised that this happens at times when any of my family members did not get a clean bill of health. So everyone please take care of your health so somebody who loves you does not feel that they are losing it.

When you drive on 9W and pass Storm King Mountain and look down you feel the presence of the Creator of this Universe.
This is our Holy month and it has been said that whatever we ask for is granted provided it does not hurt us or anyone else.  So when I am asking that my husband take charge of his health why doesn't it happen? How can his good health hurt others?
My parents always told us that our wishes may not come true right away, we just have to be patient . Today my daughter confirmed that. Her wish of seeing Cindy Lauper did not come true when she asked for it, but later on in life a friend took her to the concert for the Holidays.
So why am I being so impatient? It is the fear monster. My mother had a stroke when she was sixty-four and died four months later. I know high blood pressure is number one cause of stroke. My fears are not unreasonable. Also I would like our kids to be free of worries and concentrate on their jobs and enjoy their life as well.
So, please everyone take charge of your health. Listen to your doctors, eat right and exercise.
If you love your children take care of yourself so they can have a care free life and enjoy their youth.

18 comments:

Belle said...

I'm sorry you are so worried about your husband's health, Munir. I think the only way not to worry is to live in the moment. Ask yourself, "Is everything good right this moment?"

Don't worry about the future. My husband used to say to me, "If you can do anything about it then why worry? If you can't do anything about it, why worry?" Your own health will be better if you don't worry so much. You have such a soft, sweet heart.

LynNerd said...

I'm a worry wart, too. Kind of goes with being a mom, wife, daughter...you get the picture. But worrying takes a toll on our health, so we have to focus on positive things and hope and pray for the best in our lives. This is a nice post. Thanks for sharing. I wish you and your family joy and peace.

Michael Offutt said...

Sigh. I've been putting off a physical but maybe I should go and get one. My brother keeps nagging at me to do so. I just don't like the whole invasive idea of it. All the poking and prodding. Eeep.

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Hi Munir .. health and life are so important and what you're saying are so true. However - the most important thing is for you to be relaxed, healthy and living the now - happily and together .. jolly difficult to do .. look after yourself and just live in the today .. cheers Hilary

Shelly said...

I do hope your husband's health improves dramatically, Munir. It's hard to have a loved one who has to manage something like that.

And you are right- patience itself brings great rewards. I'm glad you are posting!

yaya said...

It's hard not to worry when it's someone you love. Hopefully he will see how much you care and try to get control of his health. Worry is hard on our bodies, but it can also push you forward to make a change. I've tried to hand God all that I know I have no control over and with faith be happy with whatever He chooses...and then I need to do more for myself on things I can control! I'm working on that concept! It will take time I afraid...

Stephanie Faris said...

I think we all feel that fear sometimes that our memories are going...but what I've found is sometimes your brain is just overwhelmed. You have a lot going on right now and it sounds like you're taking a lot of the weight on your own shoulders. My husband smokes and I hate it...I worry about future health problems. He knows I worry, but he can't seem to stop so I've resigned myself to hoping one day he'll come to that realization on his own because I can't seem to control what he does, no matter how hard I try!

Tracy said...

Last year I was diagnosed with high cholesterol and it scared the living daylights out of me. I lost 20 lbs. and headed to the Dr. and am eating right. I need to be around for my youngster...

Rosette Princess said...

awww yeah health comes first and i pray to Allah that ur husband gets well soon :) dont worry!

Shama said...

Hi, I`am so touched by your post... yeap true wishes may not come true right away...

thanks for Birthday Wish :) thanks for your kind words!!

yeah i dint wanna grow up but things around force you to grow up :-|
thats what we call life... em 24 but deep down inside em 44 :)

Dave King said...

There's no easy answer to your questions. Indeed, there's no answer at all of which we can be certain. You are right: your worries are not unreasonable, but this is the age old question - probably older than your Storm King Mountain. We have hope and the support of each other. Every blessing to you and yours.

Deborah said...

It horrible when fear geabs hold, especially around those we love. You are so right that we should take of ourselves, but we must always have faith that all will be well and make sure those dear to us know how much they are loved. Such a heartfelt post x

Imperfect said...

Hi, thanks for visiting my blog. :)

I'm too young to truly empathize with you on your post. But here's something that I remembered.

Without ever drinking a drop of alcohol, my grandfather died of liver cirrhosis. I remember that night like it was yesterday. I was nine. But what I remember more is the man he was, the amazing things he did, his hugs. Even when he knew for sure his health was not going to improve, he was still doing his favourite things: spending time with his family, travelling, playing basketball.

What is important is to always ALWAYS live like there's no tomorrow. It is the only surefire way to have no regrets. THis I have learnt. :)

I hope your family stays well.

Hope said...

sound advice from all your readers and from you Munir. Reminding people to look at the other side of the coin is a good thing. Quite often we don't think of how our own lives affect others.

try and find the beautiful, peaceful world you want so much to live in. May it be in nature, writing, meditating, singing etc. It will help to counteract the negativity that sometimes tends to be so much a part of our lives and soon you will see the positive and you will feel more at ease. It's hard when the ones we love are suffering. But it can be done I assure you.

I'm sorry to hear of your trials and I pray that you and your family will soon find relief from them

yes...live like there is no tommorow!

Ruth said...

I worry about my husband's health too.
It's hard not to.
I am giving you the Liebster Award.
Come over and pick it up.
http://ruth-welcometome.blogspot.com/2011/08/its-liebster-time.html

Ann said...

as we grow older, we may forget certain things. I am selective what I remember, I remember what is important to me.

Health is wealth.

Chatty Crone said...

I have fears too and I have had that one recently too. I think fear comes when we feel we don't have control and in AD you don't. I forget things but I hope it is just that I too have too many things on my mind and stress. Only God knows. sandie

Hold my hand: a social worker's blog said...

Praying for your husband's health. Don't worry, Munir, try to find relax and trust in prayer and spirituality. One thing at a time--or should I say, one worry at a time.

((( hugs ))))

Doris