Love throughout the year
Some people in my family do not understand the meaning of "Valentine's Day" as such. My mom always use to say that unspoken love should always be there and not just one day out of the year. My husband has the same philosophy.It could be because I worked in clothing industry for a long time, I started appreciating all holidays and all fun occasions. Also I believe in using any occasion that I can find to make a person happy and why not? This world throws all kinds of hardships at us (all of us) so why not send good vibes to cancel out bad ones.
In sociology and civics we learned that a lot of people get into bad habits and even get into mischief and criminal activities because they grew up without anyone believing in them. My question is how do we believe in people whom we don't know. When I was new at my job in vendor audit my process coordinator was very harsh during work but during breaks she was very friendly. I told her that I was confused about her strange attitude. She told me that she learned in her school that she cannot be nice to coworkers but would like me to be a friend and be in my circle if it is all right with me. Although people at work like to be friends with people of their level only, I told her that it is fine with me.
My daughter believes that people should reach out to people who are not in their social circle and step out of their comfort zone. 
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i think it's important to be kind, but yes, being a supervisor and being a friend can get very difficult and messy in work situations.
When I was in a supervisory position, I always maintained a friendly, encouraging, understanding environment.
I was a lousy supervisor.
I think it is important to reach out to everyone - even those not in their social circles.
We should love ALL mankind, despite the obnoxious individuals we all come across!!
I do think that friendships at work can be tricky - nonetheless I wouldn't be able to change my behavior so much and switch between friend and co-worker.
I absolutely agree with your daughter! Stepping out of our comfort zone can let us grow so much.
Yes, we live under the delusion of separation. However, we are all interconnected and love is a force that connects us all. We carry the joy and the pain that exists in the world inside of us. We cannot stay away from it so it is the force of love that can help us to face it.
I am reading a book related to the subject you discuss in your post. It is called "loving-kindness". I will write about it in a few days.
I think being friendly to everyone is important, but I can see that it could make things difficult in the workplace if a supervisor was good friends with a co-worker.
I don't mind celebrating at any time...like you, I think it's great to find any reason to be happy and share that with others. In my profession it's very normal for nurses to be harsh with each other. Especially in the operating room. I tried to understand this and I also try not to be that way. Many older nurses don't want to share their knowledge...or as the saying goes: Nurses tend to eat their young...I've always enjoyed teaching new nurses how to be a "scrub" nurse..handling the instruments and assisting during the operation. The younger ones will be the ones taking care of me one day and I want it done right! Ha! Let's all take a few moments each day and spread some kindness.
I have never been a supervisor - but I do think - even though they have to be the boss - there is a right way to talk to employees and a wrong way to talk.
And we should try to be nice to every body.
Munir... some of the best supervisors I had were friendly with me... the ones that kept themselves at bay were not as effective as they thought they were... personally I have ended up making some really good friends that were my supervisors over the years and it started while they were in that position... xox
Munir, you are a wise person and you have a wise daughter. I identify half-way: I have a daughter who is wise enough for both her and me.
it is sad that we let position and title separate us from one another.
Like you I love all holidays and love to reach out to people. We never know what they might be going through and how much it may help. xo
There are many problems with regard to reaching out. Married people (for example) are mostly unavailable for any event unless it's scheduled weeks in advance. The frustration of having to schedule basically outweighs it being "worth it" to reach out to married people in my book. Then there's the moochers. Those are the people that always cost you something no matter what. If you plan an evening at your home, you've got to do all the cooking, and they never contribute anything (bring a dish or give you some money for expenses). Sure, you can do it a few times but after years and years, it's been my experience to just let those people go because all they do is suck off of you like a leech. And then there's the people that are chronically late. I'm talking hours late. They overcommit to everything and then it all falls flat like a deflated souffle. And then there's the narcissist...the personality type that just wants to dominate the time you spend together by talking about them 100% of the time and overtalking everything you say. When you try to talk about something in your life, their eyes glaze over and they leave. I would love to be able to reach out to someone and have the "respect" reciprocated but I live in a desert of (more or less) rotten people.
Yes, it is good to reach out to people...we never know just when someone would be needing us.
What an intuitive daughter you have!
Hi Munir - we can reach out .. while we can also maintain a distance - we can always be there if necessary ...
Relationships of any kind are 'difficult' at the best of times ... it's good you work through them ... cheers Hilary
that´s some nice doggies :)
Being a supervisor can be hard at times. I did it for year and most of the time I had a great team and so things went flawlessly.
But every now and then........
Hi Munir,
Indeed, making others happy makes us happy. Positive interaction with those who we do not normally associate with can be such a learning experience for all concerned.
Wise thoughts from you all and of course, your beloved daughter.
Gary
You daughter is very intuitive. And although it's sometimes hard, it is important to be kind even to those who aren't.
I agree with your daughter. :)
“... it’s a blessed thing to love and feel loved in return.” love and kindness r something that the blind can see and the deaf can hear...love conquers all.keep smiling:))
I think every situation is unique but I like to go by the philosophy I've heard which roughly states to be kind to those you pass on your way up as you might just meet them again on the way down. Kind of like being a good parent to your kids because they'll be the ones to choose your nursing home. ;)
Hello :)
Great blog!
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