Wednesday, January 13, 2016

One extra step



Product DetailsI had decided that I would not write a disturbing post so early on this year. However the news of the missing kid's search ending in tragedy was on my mind for the whole week. The more I thought about his tragic death the more I got upset. I knew that I had to write a post, but I wanted to make it useful and helpful for people who have children and especially for people who have children with some kind of special need. So I talked to different people who could share my feelings about the hardships parents have to face today when it comes to raising children, making a living and wanting to have a good time on occasions. Having knowledge can help people take steps. I did not even know until I heard on the television that most autistic children are fond of bodies of water. They are fascinated by water and are drawn towards swimming pools and lakes etc. I also learned that community homes that house autistic children have staff that is very well trained and dedicated and stay awake all night to make sure that a child does not get up and walk out. A friend of mine who is a supervisor for CNAs and PCAs told me that their patients are very young but are very comfortable with the staff because they are there all the time. Most children are shy of strangers and autistic children are more shy and aloof. So even if parents want to keep their children at home and not want to keep them in a community home what they can do is get their children acquainted with well trained staff by bringing them to the centers one or two days a week. This way if they are planning on having a party or are busy some other way, they can call the staff the child is familiar with. Having the peace of mind because your child is supervised is so much better than keeping him entertained with a laptop or a tablet to play with.

Most of us have used television cartoons on Saturday mornings and during gatherings to keep our children entertained. I would say that we were fortunate that our children did not walk out of our home. A loved one who is a pediatrician says that any kid can walk out of a home if not supervised, not just an autistic child.

Ten Things Every Child With Autism Wished You Knew



19 comments:

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Hi Munir - the loss of a child is very sad ... and I feel for parents with autistic children - so difficult. Good post - we all need to think more about others ... all the best - Hilary

Maggy Shefield said...

Of course loosing a child is a tragedy for every parent. I can't even imagine how hard and heartbreaking it is. My friend from http://paperwriting.xyz/ works as a volunteer in a special house for autistic children, from time to time. He says they are special children with their own seeing of this world. They really need understanding and care cause they sometimes don't understand all the danger of this world.

Granny Annie said...

You and me both. My current post is about just such an incident where I found a toddler alone on a busy road. He had simply walked out an open door at his home. I do not believe this child had any condition other than a negligent parent. If only we could wrap our arms around all these sad situations.

joeh said...

Good information. I did not know about the water attraction.

Jim and Sandie said...

I was so blessed to have a child with no problems (at least not til he was a teen) and wonderful babysitters. Maybe because we were older parents we kept such a close eye on him he never was able to wander away. I can't imagine what heartache it would be to lose a child. So very very sad.

Amanda Mércuri said...

:)

É complicado!

Ótima sexta!

Beijo! ^^

Launna said...

It is very sad, I feel so bad for the parents who have had to deal with this... there are many I have read about over the years where there was a young child who got out in the middle of the night and wondered off.. it is such a tragedy. Sometimes you can do all that you are supposed to and still something bad happens...

I was not aware that autistic children were drawn to water... that is pretty scary if they wonder off on their own...

xox

yaya said...

There's a story from years ago that I've never forgotten. A little girl slipped out of her house on Christmas Eve when the Mom went to a house they owned next door to gather the Christmas gifts. Mom went back inside and never knew the little girl was outside and couldn't get in. She froze to death and they could see her little footprints outside by the windows and doors trying to get back inside. That story always came to mind when I would check on my kids after they went to bed...just to make sure everyone was home safe and sound. The tragedy of this little boy is truly sad for his family and with so many kids on the autism spectrum I'm sure it's made other families much more alert to keeping their children safe.

Misha Gericke said...

So sad that something like this happened.

Sherry Ellis said...

I could not even imagine losing a child! What a difficult thing to go through. I'm sure raising an autistic child has a lot of challenges.

Michael Offutt, Phantom Reader said...

Dealing with autism is so challenging. Thank you for sharing this information.

A Joyful Cottage said...

Have you ever heard of Temple Grandin? She's an American professor of animal science at Colorado State University, best-selling author, and she's autistic. With your interest in autism you would probably enjoy her biography. Perhaps you're already familiar with her.

Nada said...

Thank you for sharing this important, and also sad information. Life also has a lot of sad pages. I wish you for your future all the best.

Love,
Nada

la- rêverie said...

I wish you much strength and peace of mind.
Greetings from Switzerland,
Eva

Jim and Sandie said...

Munir - I'm hoping you get this message. It doesn't take any courage to put together a blogger get together. All it takes is a place big enough to hold everybody. Then you just put out the word where and when and people show up. I truly didn't think we would have so many folks this year and yet there they all were. Just amazing. It doesn't take any work when you find the place to hold it. So go for it.

Inger said...

You always write important posts. My relatives here installed an alarm that will speak when anyone, including their child opens the door to the garage or the front door. I often wonder if they would get so used to that warning that they wouldn't notice it. How nice it was to be a child, back in the day, who walked to school safely, who played and explored outside, safely, and how nice it was to have that independence from a very, very young age. No way could that happen in today's world.

Adhi Das said...

too touching to hear about the autistic kid... every one is created for a beautiful reason and all are special for all are god's beautiful creation.. very informative and powerful line well expressed.prayers n god love u:))

Anita said...

You are kind, loving, and supportive - following your heart to post about the loss of an autistic child and adding to the awareness which helps us all.

Marianne Kearns said...

Alas! This, too, shall pass, even o'er-the-Hillary...

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