Have a heart
"In New York, tomorrow starts today," they say. I wonder if this is pertaining to just getting jobs done or also in reference to the wear and tear of human beings, body and mind alike. We are all trying to work ahead of our times. Some of us cook too much ahead of the meal times, some of us write our bills earlier than we have to so the post office delays do not jeopardize our credit, and needless to say we do our holiday shopping and mailing way ahead of time. Some of my younger coworkers are saying that they are aging faster than people of my generation. I always tell them to slow down. Their response is that they do need two jobs just to pay back their student loans and their rent. They say that they cannot even dream of buying a home. I suggest that they can live at home until they have some money saved up so they can make a small down payment, this way they can move in their own place and financially get stronger. Also this way they can put a little extra on their student loans. A lot of young people are underemployed as well. Someone with masters degree is working in retail and some with a BA are still working in fast food. However they feel that it is the rite of passage that since they are in their late twenties they cannot live at home. They would be looked down upon as well. I wish that I could tell their parents to let their adult children live with them regardless of what the society's standards are. As long as they are willing to behave as responsible adults I think it will be better for both the parents and the children alike. As far as the society's rules are concerned the most important of all is to have understanding and feelings for the suffering of young people today.
I was telling a coworker that I am guilty of being a slacker when it comes to writing the post about "Valentine's Day." She said I was not, because as long as I care for others it did not matter if I am late in writing a post.
13 comments:
i think your caring heart shows every day. :)
You are not a slacker Muir, you have a beautiful heart xox
I like my children to be educated but I have never pressed my children to attend university because of the cost, unless they know exactly what they want to do ♡
I hope you're having a great week
Very thoughtful. Made me think about how fast we/the world are going. I agree that parents need to give a hand to kids who want to stay home and safe money. What some kids don't realize is when they live at home they need to have a few responsibilities as well. Contribute a bit financially if they are working. Contribute by doing chores. Helping by keeping his/her things in order. It can work. It takes energy from each family member. All our daughters moved home at least once. My husband especially felt we needed to give them a hand up. And we did. I'm not sorry. Lots to think about here.
Thanks for sharing.
In many ways young kids have it so much easier today, but then it seems the world is not ready for them as early as in the past. When they would ordinarily be ready to leave the nest, they have student loans, and starting wages are often low while rents and other expenses are very high.
We often have children that need to be on their own and the financial situation does not allow it. Tough times indeed.
Hi Focus ... good post - we can all do more to take responsibility for ourselves - we're lucky if we have parents, whom we can live with ... and thus sort our lives out. Adapt and be flexible, and be grateful ...
Happy Valentine's day ... look after all and care for many .. cheers Hilary
We all know that you have a very caring heart:-)
Your heart is one of the biggest most caring ones I've ever had the privilege of knowing. I've found though that most kids who are living at home are saving money but still think they should be waited on like when they were young. If parents can set out definite rules and guidelines and stick to them, the situation might work. But it's hard.
Munir, you address something here that has bothered me since my 4 children grew up and scattered across the country. They worked and borrowed their ways through university. We helped where we could. But the costs were so much greater than when we, their parents, went to school. They are in their 30s and 40s now and do all right. Some have their own homes, some don't, but they are happy and that's what really counts. Economy is not so humane as it once was, but happiness is still undiminished. This new generation is made up of heroes. I am in awe of them.
I'll send my Valentine hug to you today Munir! I lived at home until I married at 21. It wasn't uncommon in my day to stay home because I know my parents would have been very disappointed in me if Jack and I had lived together before marriage. Funny how things have changed! My youngest son had moved back in with us to get money set aside and now has his own place. Sometimes it's necessary to put aside your pride to get what needs to be done. I also think many young people want to live like their parents without taking the time to work up to a higher living standard...paying their dues I think you'd call it. I will say though that those student loans can be a killer. So expensive. Good post today as always! Very thoughtful. Have a wonderful weekend!
This might sound selfish to many, but I hope that my children will be able to live in their own homes when they become mature adults. If I had to pick an age, I would hope that they'd be settled in an apartment (with roommates if necessary) by age 24. And I'd hope that they would have money to save and be able to invest in a house by 30. I know... big wishes, but I've seen it done, even nowadays.
Some young people have a sense of entitlement and some parents coddle - bad combination. I'd like to be the mama bird who pushes baby out of the nest to learn how to fly.
I understand your post, though. It makes a lot of sense to do if you have children who are working and being wise with their money, and children who are respectful.
Munir I visited the blig you told me about... I think I was long winded but I could certainly feel her pain... I think writing it out can help eventually, I know it's what helped me when I went through that extremely sad time in my life.. I hope you are doing well, take care of yourself and your family xox ♡
I live with my mum and I pay rent etc and I'm 27, I don't ever think there's anything wrong with living with parents if you want to or need to. I don't like it that some are quite strict and kick their kids out either.
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What a wonderful post! I think American society thinks kids are adults when they are 18. This is so not true. I'm grateful my daughter is safely in college for a few years, maturing. (Luckily she has lots of scholarships.) But her advisor thinks she should move to the west coast or the east coast to go to grad school...she's not ready for that yet. She's getting closer but needs just a bit more time. When she finishes college if she needs to live at home until she can afford to buy a home I have no problem with that.
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