Tuesday, September 1, 2015

School Days !


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Before I took this new job working as a vendor I wondered how I would do because working at my previous position as an auditor was kind of different. My old job gave me a lot of confidence and I thought that I might get a little nervous with the new job. Turns out that I am not at all nervous with my new job either. The thing is at age sixty five, most people are quite confident at their jobs. However things are different with younger people. I see a lot of young people who are shy. A lot of young people are nervous and will not look you in the eye. A lot of young people are stressed out with the thought of their supervisor watching them. Then you have a handful of the feisty type who will not do their job and still have the guts to flirt with the supervisor and get away with extra long breaks.  My heart goes out for the shy, hardworking young people who lack confidence even to ask for a break and never get appreciated. Then I wonder what could have happened in their early life that made them too shy to ask for their rights even. When I was younger some people asked me about how I became a people person and why I am not shy. My boss at my previous job (who has double MBA) asked me for tips to be confident. I do not have an answer as I have never studied human psychology. The only answer I might come up with is the fact that my parents loved all of us and told us that we are no less than anyone and as long as we are honest and hardworking we do not have to be afraid of anyone. As my parents were always feeling bad about not giving us what my uncles and aunties could give their children, they had decided to give us the best care any parent could ever give. They gave us a lot of love and told us that we are no less than anyone and even without the best things to wear they said that we looked very smart because we were. I remember my father said that we were his wealth and we were his treasure.4 Piece Backpack - Chevron When I went to school I remembered his words during class and those words made me feel good about myself. His words always helped me feel good and it reflected in my behavior. I think to each of us our children are a treasure but we forget to tell them that. In America people give their children a lot of nice things but that does not mean that we should not give them words to boost their confidence. Letting them know how much we love them and how much they can count on us to be able to tell us everything they want to tell us will give them a sense of safety and that can translate into confidence. Some people think that going to a progressive private school made us socially confident, I still think that the loving words from my parents were the key factor.

13 comments:

joeh said...

I think that love and confidence are the best gifts possible.

Launna said...

Munir, I think your parents had it right... words are so much better than stuff. I see that with Valentina just needing my time, thank you for reminding me... I do remember to tell her she is wonderful which I need to do more of... xox ♡♡♡

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Hi Munir - couldn't agree more than with your father .. treasure your kids, treat your family and friends as though they are your well .. and your wealth is the happiness that will come from this.

I'm so pleased the new job seems to be going well .. enjoy - Hilary

fishducky said...

Brilliant!!

Geo. said...

You have a wonderful and reliable gift of love and confidence from your parents. It can't be outdated, replaced by a new product or improved upon.

Lexa Cain said...

I'm living in the opposite situation in Egypt. Here, all parents adore their kids and treat them like little princes and princesses. They don't teach them to do a job well or be responsible and certainly not to be kind or considerate of others. The big smiles tourists see are a facade that hides greed and selfishness. I'm all for the shy, unconfident one that does the work. Not many of those here though.

TexWisGirl said...

you are a wise woman - and you were lucky to receive such strength and support from little on. :)

Sharon K. Mayhew said...

Fantastic post! Parenting is not about giving stuff to your children it is about giving them real love and confidence. I'm tweeting your post! <3

Sherry Ellis said...

Loving words from parents certainly do build confidence. I think there are other factors at play with some of these shy young people, though. They're probably introverts, and because most of their communication is on devices, they just don't know how to talk to a human being who's standing right in front of them.

yaya said...

My parents were made of the same cloth as yours. My Dad always made us feel like we were special and taught us that we could accomplish anything we put our minds too. We also learned the value of education and hard work. I feel the love and respect my parents had for each other also played a big part in how we turned out.

Michael Offutt, Phantom Reader said...

I think that the world is an incredibly hard and unforgiving place for those who don't have money. It's a disservice to children to be coddled too much and then expect them to grow into adults who will be in socio-economic bondage. What I mean by this is that most of us will have to work to make a living. We will have to support ourselves. So having this as a mindset and that you won't be able to hide from this responsibility is important.

CelestinaMarie@SouthernDayDreams said...

Hi Munir, what a wonderful post. I totally agree to find the strength we need to be confident really does originate from our parents and what happens in the home. Your childhood sounds similar to mine and I am very thankful to have had that solid foundation. Thank you for sharing. Wishing you a wonderful weekend.
Hugs and Blessings, cm

Ghadeer said...

I did not know that you are an ex-auditor! I'm an auditor myself

It is so heart-warming to hear of your father describing you as his wealth and treasure. :)